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"Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings." Samuel Johnson
Martial arts helps boost kids' self-confidence; this in and of itself is a great way to defend your child against bulling. Teaching your children to report any incidents of bullying at school should be mandatory to help stop bulling. It doesn't matter if the source of the bulling is coming from the student body, faculty or staff. However, without enforcement none of this is going to work. While almost all teachers are good, there are those bad ones that often slip by unnoticed. Most teachers are over loaded with work and they might not notice warning signs of student bulling, let alone from other faculty. Listen to your kids, even with you doing all the right things it can still happen. So if your kid becomes withdrawn, or reluctant to go to school, check in with a mental health professional for help.
Being bullied at school both physically and emotionally interferes with the goal of education, that being learning and improving one's life. Bullied children experience humiliation and fear which are often the worst of hurts as they last the longest, often long into adulthood. These types of hurts long outlast most physical injuries that they suffer. Bulling often interferes with relationships and other trust issues later in life. While some schools have programs in place to reduce bullying behavior, I have yet to see where they have helped any student I've ever come into contact with in my lifetime. My major indictment of the school anti-bulling system is that there is no or little follow through. To top it off, even if a child tries to walk away and is still attacked, they are often punished for defending themselves. Maybe it's different in your school system, I hope so, and I'm just speaking from my experience with the various school districts I went to while growing up.
Martial arts helps boost kids' self-confidence; this in and of itself is a great way to defend your child against bulling. Teaching your children to report any incidents of bullying at school should be mandatory to help stop bulling. It doesn't matter if the source of the bulling is coming from the student body, faculty or staff. However, without enforcement none of this is going to work. While almost all teachers are good, there are those bad ones that often slip by unnoticed. Most teachers are over loaded with work and they might not notice warning signs of student bulling, let alone from other faculty. Listen to your kids, even with you doing all the right things it can still happen. So if your kid becomes withdrawn, or reluctant to go to school, check in with a mental health professional for help.
Being bullied at school both physically and emotionally interferes with the goal of education, that being learning and improving one's life. Bullied children experience humiliation and fear which are often the worst of hurts as they last the longest, often long into adulthood. These types of hurts long outlast most physical injuries that they suffer. Bulling often interferes with relationships and other trust issues later in life. While some schools have programs in place to reduce bullying behavior, I have yet to see where they have helped any student I've ever come into contact with in my lifetime. My major indictment of the school anti-bulling system is that there is no or little follow through. To top it off, even if a child tries to walk away and is still attacked, they are often punished for defending themselves. Maybe it's different in your school system, I hope so, and I'm just speaking from my experience with the various school districts I went to while growing up.
Most parents that bring their kids to martial art class are doing it because they want to do something to help with this problem as the school programs are not working. But let's face it sometimes the kid is the problem. But even if they are the bully, martial arts can still help even the bully to cope with the pressures of life in a positive manner. The school bulling approach just seem to want to talk about the situation without doing anything to stop the behavior. Giving your kids a method to develop and practice appropriate defensive responses so they are prepared for someone acting against them with violence, both verbal and/or physical, comes in handy. Not acting in our own defense can cause lifelong emotional pain.
"We fear violence less than our own feelings. Personal, private, solitary pain is more terrifying than what anyone else can inflict." Jim Morrison
We see news all the time now about sexual predator teachers women as well as men, it happens all the time, we are just hearing more about it now. Remember don't blame your kid for the actions of the bullies, no matter if they are coming from fellow students or a teacher. Teaching your kids to stay alert to the danger signs of bulling (intimidation such as threats, or sexual coercion), and reporting it no matter if it is from another child or an adult is the first step. Standing with and supporting your child is the next step. If you do not achieve satisfaction within the academic structure, report it to outside authorities such as the police before it has a chance to start on a physical level. My father was a chaplain at a boy's home for wayward gang members. So, I have seen that these kind of problems often results in drug, alcohol, and/or running away or even over the top physical violence retaliation problems.
Most kids who are bullied keep it to themselves. Five of the big warning signs of kids being bullied are: Frequently ill with real or imagined headaches or stomachaches
"We fear violence less than our own feelings. Personal, private, solitary pain is more terrifying than what anyone else can inflict." Jim Morrison
We see news all the time now about sexual predator teachers women as well as men, it happens all the time, we are just hearing more about it now. Remember don't blame your kid for the actions of the bullies, no matter if they are coming from fellow students or a teacher. Teaching your kids to stay alert to the danger signs of bulling (intimidation such as threats, or sexual coercion), and reporting it no matter if it is from another child or an adult is the first step. Standing with and supporting your child is the next step. If you do not achieve satisfaction within the academic structure, report it to outside authorities such as the police before it has a chance to start on a physical level. My father was a chaplain at a boy's home for wayward gang members. So, I have seen that these kind of problems often results in drug, alcohol, and/or running away or even over the top physical violence retaliation problems.
Most kids who are bullied keep it to themselves. Five of the big warning signs of kids being bullied are: Frequently ill with real or imagined headaches or stomachaches
Having bad dreams
Having declining grades
Having skipped classes
Having unexplained injuries or lost or damaged possessions
Most anti-bulling programs encourage the kids to walk away from the bully or to seek help from a teacher, coach or other adult. Often this doesn't work, sometimes the adults are the problem. I have laid out a few adult males when I was a teen. One was a teacher that struck me from behind. The teacher was a fit man in his thirties and he apologized to me after I helped him back to his feet. He also never reported me over it as he knew it was his fault. I have also witnessed other students in even worse physical and mental abuse situations. I and/or others reported them and not once was it followed up on, criminally, the administration and/or the school board ignored the problem/s as isolated incidents and took care of it in-house. Then there are sexual abuse situations and parents that don't believe or report the stories about abuse or sexual predatory behavior to the authorities are part of the problem. If the kids don't have a last ditch personal defense system in place to help him or her to fight back, then often the kids feel they have no choice, just my opinion.
"Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence." Robert Frost
For more on: Bullying
"Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence." Robert Frost
For more on: Bullying
My Dream Walker series starts off with the story of bulling and abuse of a young boy in "Conversations with a Sage". My stories are about martial arts adventures that are intertwined with paranormal or supernatural events. The following links are to the Kindle version books from the "Dream Walker” series. Our adventurers find themselves on a quest where they are confronted with both conspiracy and mystery. Their challenge is to unite their mind and body skills together utilizing what they have learned in the martial arts with the transcendental power of dream mediation. They attempt to do this while they are trying to make a life for themselves and elude those that seek to use and control them.
Jace Lee The Shift (Book 4 of the Dream-Walker)
Jace Lee The Shift: We find a new apprentice, Adam, that is fighting for his life. He is struggling to understand the amazing skills of his mentor, Jace Lee; a younger man that has trained under Xander Davidson. All the while his mentor attempts to reconcile the fact that his skills do not match up with the other Dream Walkers.
Jace Lee No Agenda (Dream Walker Book 5)
Jace Lee No Agenda: Jace Lee attempts to find himself on a self-imposed vision quest of sorts. Instead he finds himself being stalked by the same group that had previously sought after his teacher, (Xander Davidson). Instead of mastering his odd Dream Walking skills he finds love and the potential loss of his powers.
Jace Lee and the Tutelage of Ming Wu: Dream Walker 6
Jace Lee The Tutelage of Ming Wu: Jace Lee rejoins his teacher Xander Davidson as they cope with a possible combined threat (the mysterious), Ming Wu and the Council that has continuously monitored the Dream Walkers.
Conversations with a Sage (Book 1 of the Dream-Walker)
Conversations with a Sage: This explores Xander Davidson's early encounters with the mysterious fog like Dream Walking martial art sages. He ponders if they are real or if they are only remnants of his dreams. He mainly keeps this secret world to himself as he tries to copes with abuse, growing up without support or guidance and the mystery of his family's past.
Conversations with a Sage: This explores Xander Davidson's early encounters with the mysterious fog like Dream Walking martial art sages. He ponders if they are real or if they are only remnants of his dreams. He mainly keeps this secret world to himself as he tries to copes with abuse, growing up without support or guidance and the mystery of his family's past.
Xander and the Assassins Gift (Book 2 of the Dream-Walker)
The Assassins Gift: Xander Davidson struggles with the conspiracy of his family and the group that is actively trying to manipulate him to join them or die. The young Dream Walkers learns an early lesson to be careful about whom they let into their circle.
Warriors of Perception (Book 3 of the Dream-Walker)
Warriors of Perception: Xander Davidson and his band of friends embark on a mission to free themselves from their oppressors. They bravely face the challenge all the while vying for the right moment to turn the tables.
The Assassins Gift: Xander Davidson struggles with the conspiracy of his family and the group that is actively trying to manipulate him to join them or die. The young Dream Walkers learns an early lesson to be careful about whom they let into their circle.
Warriors of Perception (Book 3 of the Dream-Walker)
Warriors of Perception: Xander Davidson and his band of friends embark on a mission to free themselves from their oppressors. They bravely face the challenge all the while vying for the right moment to turn the tables.
Jace Lee The Shift (Book 4 of the Dream-Walker)
Jace Lee The Shift: We find a new apprentice, Adam, that is fighting for his life. He is struggling to understand the amazing skills of his mentor, Jace Lee; a younger man that has trained under Xander Davidson. All the while his mentor attempts to reconcile the fact that his skills do not match up with the other Dream Walkers.
Jace Lee No Agenda (Dream Walker Book 5)
Jace Lee No Agenda: Jace Lee attempts to find himself on a self-imposed vision quest of sorts. Instead he finds himself being stalked by the same group that had previously sought after his teacher, (Xander Davidson). Instead of mastering his odd Dream Walking skills he finds love and the potential loss of his powers.
Jace Lee The Tutelage of Ming Wu: Jace Lee rejoins his teacher Xander Davidson as they cope with a possible combined threat (the mysterious), Ming Wu and the Council that has continuously monitored the Dream Walkers.
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